16th May 2012
6th May 2012
1st of May 2012 Not exactly the right weather, but hopefully some sunshine this afternoon. I had my foot surgery on the 25th as planned, but under General Anaesthetic and not the Local I had expected. Also the surgery could not be completed in its entirity and I have to have more in 6 months time. Unfortunately I flat lined under the Anaesthetic and have a heart problem. At present tablets are controlling this, but I still have high blood pressure and black outs as well. Neither very safe nor comfortable, but science is such, that it can hopefully be fixed with time. I still have to live with an awful amount of stress to sort out everything required after Fred`s death. The funeral costs are extortinate and his Pensions have died with him. I have no idea if I can carry on living in the house we have lived in for 57 years on just one small Pension Income. If I have to move I will mosty certainly lose the cats and the breeding side of that, and that is one thing I don`t really want to dwell on right now. Although Fred has been in the care Home for 2 1/2 years now I miss him terribly. He was only just down the road and I could see him whenever I wanted, and used to visit mostly every Sunday Morning. I find it incredibly hard that he is no longer there and did not expect this at all. I had my three sons with me and saw them together for the first time in many years. I also had three of my grand daughters there as well. Everyone lives so far apart, it is not very often one can get families together. I still had the family church candle. This was lit at our Wedding in 1956, used at the Christening of the three boys and was lit again for Fred. Apart from Family I was suppported by many friends from the Cat Fancy. Fred was a huge part of my Life with the breeding of our Silver Tabby and Spotted cats for 30 years. He built the cat houses and took me to shows. His Hobbies were Photography, Painting and Gardening and he left that legacy behind for all to see. He was racing Motorbikes at Brands Hatch in 1935, nowadays a well known Racing Circuit in Kent. He always drove the car like a bike and I shall never know how he avoided getting a speeding ticket. His driving influenced me and his sons. Working on engines was child`s play for him, he worked on the engines of Flying boats and other aircraft when stationed with the RAF in Iraq in 1936. That knowledge came in handy when putting Central Heating in the house in the 1960`s and with so many other things he did for me, which I now have to pay for. After his stroke in April 1999 he was sadly left with vascular dementia, which got him very frustrated and made both of our lives very difficult. The Alzheimers Society in Maidstone did and still does an awful lot of work to help people with dementia not just for the people suffering from it, but also for the carers. They held Tea Parties, Barbeques and Carer`s support meetings. This was very necessary and helpful for both of us, hence I have asked for donations instead of flowers to be sent to the Alzheimers Society in Maidstone. I thank everyone who so generously gave up their time to support me today. I could not have done this without you. I have lived alone now for nearly 2 1/2 years, with Fred in the Care Home just a short distance from our home. Yet I was not really alone until now. I always had the option to visit him regularly and talk to him. 57 years is a long time to be together and I shall miss him a lot. I still have some of the cats and they, as always, are a comfort. Animals demand very little, but give so much back. I am going into Hospital on the 25th for further foot surgery and just maybe I might be able to walk without constant pain when it is over. It is with great sadness that I am writing to let you know that my beloved husband Fred has died at 8.05 this evening. The last 14 days have been tortureous for everyone and I am glad that he is finally at peace. He always wanted the Telegram from the Queen and so nearly made it. We married in October 1956 and have not been apart since. He has had dementia for many years now and was in the Residential Care Home just over 2 years. As this was only 1/2 a mile from home I could and did see him every weekend, and in the early days brought him home a lot. Late last Summer I took him to our favourite place at the Seaside and we had a meal out in the pub on the sea front at Minster. That was the last time I could manage to do this. I feel very lost at present and have now idea how I will manage on my own. Fred loved the cats and the shows and in the Home he loved my son`s dog Harvey. Every time I had Harvey I took him to see Fred and all the other people were loving and stroking him as well. The show was held in Maidstone today one mile from where I live. Natalie Hewitt of Tigatails had kindly offered to take Ch Khankoban Silver Fox for me and Sargenta Silver Calypso. Fox was awardced his first Grand Challenge Certificate and Best of Breed. He also did well in his side classes. Calypso came 2nd. Sargenta Silver Cornelius won his 3rd CC and was made up to Champion fpr me my 110th titled cat. Mr Kahn and his small daughter were very excited, especially as their other cat Vinmar Silver Sasha was also made up to Champion on the day. Many congratulations to them.
6th April 2012 Personal Sadly the promised update on my computer has not taken place and I am unable to do this myself. I no longer have some of the cats shown on my website. Xalvador and Zebedee were neutered and re-homed last year. The only girls I retained were Bernice, Belinda and Zenia. I now have been able to buy some cats from Natalie of Tigatails and have two new stud boys with Khankoban Silver Fox - silver spotted and Revodna Silver Storm - silver tabby. The girls I bought back are Sargenta Silver Calypso- Tabby and Sargenta Silver Cupcake - spotted. Also Tigatails Brandysnap - silver spotted. Please bear with me at present, I hope things will resolve themselves soon. 17th January 2012 Personal We are almost half way through the first month of the New Year. Where has the time gone? Unfortunately I had another fall on 2nd January and have torn a ligament in my right knee. Unable to walk at all since. Zenia`s kittens are nearing their final vaccination and going to a new home. Chester, the silver spotted boy is still for sale. Cassie is still very tiny, only on |